If you are being bullied it's important that you tell someone you trust for example someone in your family, a teacher or another trusted adult. Never suffer in silence.
It doesn’t matter what colour hair you have; what trainers you are wearing; how you speak; how you walk; how you talk – it is not your fault if you get bullied. We are all different in some way and that’s what makes us amazing.
Whether you are a boy or a girl, old or young, big or small – bullying makes you feel rubbish and it’s okay to be upset about it. The important thing is that you tell someone about it.
If you feel you can, talk to a teacher you trust or your parents, brother or sister. If you don’t want to do that you can always call Childline 0800 11 11 or visitwww.childline.org.uk.
Keep a record of what happened, when it happened, and who was involved. If the bullying is online, keep the evidence – save or copy any photos, videos, texts, e-mails or posts.
It can be tempting if you are being bullied to retaliate – for example to send a horrible message back to someone; to try and embarrass and hurt the other person, or to fight back. This is not a good idea– you might end up getting in trouble or get yourself even more hurt.
Think about other ways you can respond to bullying. For example, practice saying‘I don’t like it when you say that/do that – Stop.' Think about other people who can help you if you are being bullied – this could be other classmates, or a teacher.
Only hang out with people who make you feel good about yourself. If someone constantly puts you down they are not a real friend and not worth your time.
Be kind to yourself, and do things that make you feel good, relax and make new friends. You might play an instrument; write lyrics; draw cartoons; dance; act or join a sports club. This is your life so make sure it’s the best life possible – don’t let anyone bring you down.
Remember to be kind to other people! Just because someone is different to you and your friends – that doesn’t mean you are better than them or have a right to make them feel bad. If you mess up, say sorry. You don’t have to be friends with everyone – but you should always show respect, make it clear that you don’t like it when people bully others, and stick up for people who are having a hard time.
If you need help or advice about bullying there are helplines and websites that can provide you with information and support:
ChildLine ChildLine is the UK's free, confidential helpline for children and young people. They offer advice and support, by phone and online, 24 hours a day. Whenever and wherever you need them, they'll be there. Call 0800 1111. They have adesignated page for bullying issues that includes a new video about building up your confidence after bullying.
Direct Gov Information for young people on cyberbullying, bullying on social networks, Internet and email bullying, bullying on mobile phones, bullying at school, what to do about bullying, and information and advice for people who are bullying others and want to stop.
EACH EACH has a freephone Actionline for children experiencing homophobic bullying: 0808 1000 143. It's open Monday to Friday 10am-5.00pm
The websites below have lots of information and advice for anyone who has had experience of bullying.
The Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre (CEOP) maintains a website for children and young people, and parents and carers about staying safe online: Think U Know
GoGetInfo GoGetInfo is a mobile information service for teenagers that sends trusted expert advice on all sorts of issues straight to your mobile phone. Each download is made up of practical text content, video clips and images. Topics covered include bullying, condoms, emergency contraception, self-harm and pregnancy. Each download costs 50p (plus standard data charges for videos). GoGetInfo or click here to find out more.
A local girl scout group recently contacted us with another website recommendation-
"While working on our 'Making Friends' badge, we've also been talking about how to be a good Digital Citizen by not bullying people online, being helpful, and always doing your research! So in the true spirit of the "Making Friends" badge, the girls have suggested another article about cyberbullying that they found helpful"
Many thanks to the diligent and friendly girls and adults of the Girl Scouts!
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable or upset online, talk to an adult you can trust, such as a relative or a teacher. If you would prefer to talk to someone in confidence you can contact Childline (0800 1111)
If someone has acted inappropriately online towards you, or someone you know, you can report directly to the Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre (CEOP). It could be sexual or threatening chat, or being asked to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable or someone asking to meet up.